ten months

ten months of marriage.

so close to a year!

ten lessons I've learned in ten months.

1. zach is the funniest human being on earth

--i knew zach was funny but now that i live with him i've realized, there is no one who can make me laugh harder.

2. don't leave the apartment in the middle of a fight

--go to a different room, yes. but for us, leaving can't happen. we both get really hurt by it and it is the most unproductive action we can take. 

3. alone time is healthy

--we are together a lot but it is good to get away from everything and just think or listen to music or be with Jesus.

4. praying always works better than complaining

--i have tried to nag about things i wish zach would do or not do and the change doesn't last. but when i ask God to change mine or his heart about the situation, there is always a change and it sticks!

5. zach has my back

--the unity that has come about, in the last ten months is incredible and there have been moments where i am reminded that Zach will always be there for me. 

6. it is okay to fail

--we say stuff we don't mean, we yell and cry, it happens. expecting perfection is unfair.

7. it's not always fair

--sometimes i feel like i deserve things from Zach and it doesn't happen. I'm sure he feels the same way. Learning to love him even in moments when it doesn't feel fair has brought so many blessings.

8. my words carry a lot of weight with him

--one careless sentence from my mouth can stick with him even when i have long forgotten about it. The same with encouragement, everyone can say how great i did, but it is just different when it comes from him. 

9. nights that include sweats, pizza and watching tv on the couch next to him have been some of our greatest.

--after a long week, sometimes simple is what we need. staying in on a friday night shouldn't mean we're lame and if it does, than i love being lame.

10. loving him is a privilege

--God chose me to love this guy, it's a freaking blessing!

Here's to making more mistakes, memories and learning a million more lessons!

-hay